For Immediate Release
Dan Couvrette, Divorce
Magazine Publisher
“I’ve learned many things
that can make Father’s
Day an enjoyable,
peaceful experience for
noncustodial dads.”
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Divorce Magazine Publisher and Divorce Marketing Group CEO Dan Couvrette has 6 wise tips for noncustodial dads who want to make Father’s Day a pleasant, enjoyable and memorable experience for them and especially their children.
“For a number of years, Father’s Day was a more challenging time for me than any other time of year,” notes Dan Couvrette. “My ex informed me that she wanted a divorce on Father’s Day 16 years ago. My kids were 5 and 10 at the time. To say it was tough for all of us to deal with would be an understatement. But over time, and with support from a number of people — especially my second wife — I’ve learned many things that can make Father’s Day an enjoyable, peaceful experience for noncustodial dads. I’m hopeful that some of my tips will help struggling dads this Father’s Day.”
Tip #1: Focus on your children. Though it’s called “Father’s Day” and you may be the one getting a gift (yes, it will be a tie), the real gift is the one you can give to your children by making it easy and stress-free for all of you. Depending on their age, your children may be struggling with “adult-sized” emotions like guilt and shame. Don’t add to their stress through your negative attitude.
Tip #2: Plan well in advance and be flexible. Don’t assume that because it’s Father’s Day, you’ll have the children. Talk to your ex-spouse as soon as possible to clear a schedule that works for everyone (as best as possible). You may have to celebrate Father’s Day earlier or later than what the calendar says. If this is the case, then be flexible and don’t make this change a “big deal” for anyone. Treat it as a normal, sensible adjustment.
Tip #3: Be mindful of extended families. If your ex-spouse has re-married, you may not get “preferable Father’s Day time” compared to your children’s step-father. As unfair as this may seem, this isn’t the time or the place to tackle the issue — because the biggest losers will be the children who get caught in the middle. If required by the final divorce decree or just because it’s the better part of wisdom, have an “alternative Father’s Day” with your children. Conversely, if you are a step-father and have the opportunity to spend Father’s Day with your step-children, include them in your planning.
Tip #4: Enjoy the day! If you’re spending the day with your children, do your best to make it a great day. However, even if you can’t spend the day with your children, try and have some fun anyway. Engage yourself in activities or spend time with people you love. Don’t sit at home and relive unpleasant memories, or rehash unpleasant conversations, about your divorce.
Tip #5: Avoid “one-upsmanship.” You may want to dazzle your children by giving them a wonderful, luxury Father’s Day experience. That’s fine – as long as your intentions and motives aren’t to put down the children’s mother or their step-father. Father’s Day isn’t an opportunity for you to score some “revenge points.” Be a role model.
Tip #6: Consider counseling. Father’s Day, and all of the marketing hoopla that surrounds it, can trigger an emotional storm within you. This can create pain, stress and depression. Rather than trying to deal with these challenging emotional issues yourself, consider reaching out to a qualified counselor who can help you deal with these feelings in an honest, safe and productive manner.
Noncustodial dads seeking more advice can visit Divorce Magazine to browse through an extensive library of practical and easy-to-read articles on a variety of divorce issues. The website also lists local marriage counselors and other allied support professionals who can help fathers (and others) deal with the emotional and psychological challenges triggered by Father’s Day, and other holidays.
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Launched in 1995, Divorce Magazine is North America’s only magazine devoted entirely to divorce. It’s published twice a year with six regional editions (California, Texas, Illinois, Florida, New York/New Jersey and Ontario), and is full of helpful articles as well as guides to local divorce professionals, including family lawyers. The magazine’s website, DivorceMagazine.com, has been the leading divorce-related website since 1995, offering a diverse archive with thousands of pages of self-help articles as well as public forums, polls, and information on local divorce professionals. For more information on Divorce Magazine and DivorceMagazine.com, contact publisher and CEO Dan Couvrette at (888) 217-9538 ext. 24, or email DanC@divorcemag.com.
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The issue also offers an array of helpful answers to frequently asked questions answered by local divorce lawyers and other divorce professionals, a financial health check-up quiz, and an overview of the debate on whether 50/50 joint custody by parents should be the starting point in any divorce settlement. “As a divorced father, I was pleasantly surprised to see that our poll on http://www.DivorceMagazine.com regarding 50/50 child access was supported by both women and men,” notes Dan Couvrette, Divorce Magazine’s publisher and CEO.
Plus, the issue features an exclusive interview with Grammy award-winning singer/songwriter Dan Hill in which he shares intimate thoughts on relationships. “Dan Hill has a unique ability to capture and convey the complex emotions that many of us feel at difficult times, such as during marital struggles,” reflects Dan Couvrette, who interviewed Dan Hill for the piece.
The Summer/Fall 2010 issue of Divorce Magazine is available now. Additionally, Divorce Magazine’s online knowledge center, located at http://www.DivorceMagazine.com, contains a wide range of divorce-related articles, news items and other resources. Access is free and no registration is required.
About Divorce Magazine
Launched in 1995, Divorce Magazine is North America’s only magazine devoted entirely to divorce. It’s published twice a year with six regional editions, and features helpful divorce articles and guides to local divorce professionals. Since 1995, the online version of the magazine, http://www.DivorceMagazine.com, has been a leading divorce-related website, and offers thousands of pages of self-help articles as well as public forums, polls, and information on local divorce professionals. The company also runs BlogsOnDivorce, which features expert opinion and insight from leading divorce professionals, including judges, lawyers, mediators, therapists and more. For more information on Divorce Magazine, http://www.DivorceMagazine.com and http://www.BlogsOnDivorce.com, contact publisher and CEO Dan Couvrette at (888) 217-9538 ext. 24 or email DanC@divorcemag.com.
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Published since 1995, Divorce Magazine is North America’s only magazine devoted entirely to divorce-related issues. The magazine helps divorcing individuals and families through the process in the most economical and least traumatic way possible. It offers practical help and information about divorce-related issues – from child support to visitation, mediation to litigation, divorce recovery to dating after divorce. For more articles about parenting during and after divorce, go to: http://www.divorcemag.com/articles/Parenting_and_Step-Families.